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Wedding Traditions You Should'nt Feel Bad About Skipping

6 Wedding Traditions You Shouldn't Feel Bad About Skipping | Whether you're a stickler for tradition or you consider yourself a modern-day bride, remember: Your wedding day is supposed to be about you and your fiancĂ©, and every decision you make should reflect that. So, if you don't want to walk down the aisle wearing a white dress or want to steal a first look with your groom before the ceremony — do it! Here, we rounded up a few standard wedding rules that are totally OK to break.

Wearing a white wedding gown 
Sure, your grandma may raise an eyebrow if you decide to rock a pink gown (Reese Witherspoon and Jessica Biel did it!), but it's your dress and you should wear what you want to. By the time the actual wedding rolls around, no one (Grams included!) will really care that you aren't adorned in white. On the other hand, if this is your second or even third marriage and you still want to wear a white dress, by all means, go for it.

Appointing a single flower girl and ring bearer
Many couples are opting to nix the roles of the flower girl and ring bearer altogether. If you don't know any kids, this decision makes sense (you can let your dog fill in instead!). If you have several nieces and nephews, however, you shouldn't feel pressured to pick just one boy and one girl to be a part of your wedding. Include them all, and give each child a special role.

Choosing matching bridesmaids dresses
Unlike the miraculous jeans in The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants, the same gown isn't going to look amazing on everyone. So let your bridesmaids pick out a dress that makes them feel confident. You can always designate a color or fabric for everyone to stick to if you'd still like to keep the look uniform.

Seeing the groom before you say, "I do"
We promise your marriage isn't doomed forever if you do decide to meet up with your man before the wedding. In fact, your photographer will most likely encourage this! Snapping pics prior to the ceremony will not only free up more time for you to spend with family and friends, but your hair and makeup will be freshly done as well.

Having a tiered wedding cake
You can have your traditional wedding cake and eat it too. Or you can do something totally out of the box and serve up a different dessert altogether. Think: cupcake or French macaron tower, chocolate fondue fountain, or a whole buffet full of sweet treat options. No matter what you serve, you can never really go wrong with sweets.

Throwing your bouquet and garter
This can be a fun and silly tradition for all your unattached pals to take part in. If only a few of your friends are single though, there's no need to go out of your way to draw attention to their lack of a significant other. Instead, play a wedding trivia game where everyone can get involved. The guy and girl who answer the most questions correct regarding your relationship take home the "prize" of the bouquet and garter.

5 Wedding Photo Poses To Just Avoid Altogether

5 Wedding Photo Poses to Just Avoid Altogether | As fabulous as it is to look at other people's wedding photos—because so many of them are spectacular—this is always something that's important to remember: For every gorgeous picture, there's one that went awry. Case in point: me and my husband. Let's try to figure out why we thought this was a good idea on our wedding day, shall we?

 Unintentionally hilarious, which is definitely an upside (I laugh whenever I see this pic—and the good news is that there were tons of lovely photos to supplement this one). So that's the first pose to avoid: looking like the floating heads of woodland elves, far from your spouse.

Photographers often work with you based on certain time constraints, so it's good to have an idea of what might make for a great pose—while remembering what make for a bad one too. Luckily, pro photographers will know the difference. Bearing that in mind, here are some poses you might consider not striking during your wedding photo session.

The Jumping-in-the-Air Pose: It can be done—and it can be done well!—but think about the physics at play, here. You're in a dress; action shots are challenging (especially when there are two people to coordinate); gravity.

The Groom Peeking-Out-of-Your-Dress Pose:

The Bride-Lying-Down Pose: I've never understood the appeal of this one, but lots of people seem to like it. A bride lying in the grass at her attendants' feet—or anyone's feet, for that matter—is a little awkward. (Plus: grass stains. Right?)

Any Pose That Makes You Uncomfortable: Seriously, if you're not into facing away from the camera while holding your bouquet next to your shoulder blades because your strapless bra is digging into your back and it hurts—it's OK not to do it!

Still, according to Liz Lopez of Liz Lopez Photography, these aren't hard-and-fast rules: "My theory is that it's worth trying every and all poses you can think of—what one couple may love, another may not like at all," she says. "It completely depends on the personalities of the newlyweds you're shooting and how crazy, refined, traditional, or out-of-the-box they are. It's always OK to be fun and be creative!"

What Your Star Sign Says About Your Mothering Style

What Your Star Sign Says About Your Mothering Style | They say that the mother is born with the child, and astrologically speaking, this is true. A whole new persona emerges when you become a mom -- and the reason is written in the stars. 

In astrology, the zodiac wheel is divided into 12 segments, or houses, each one representing a different area of life. The fourth house determines your mothering style, how you nurture, and whether you're a touchy-feely type or the family disciplinarian. Depending on your sun sign, each house on your zodiac wheel will be ruled, or governed, by a particular sign. When a sign “rules” a house, that means it exerts a strong influence over whatever that house symbolizes. So, the ruler of the fourth (motherhood) house will color your approach to mothering.

Ever wonder why you feel like two different people in your mom and non-parenting lives? The ruler of your motherhood house is a zodiac sign that’s quite different from your sun/birth sign. For example, a fiercely independent Sagittarius mom has uber-dependent Pisces ruling her motherhood house. As a result, becoming a mom will bring out an entirely different facet of her personality… one that could feel uncomfortable or unfamiliar at first.

Don’t worry -- you don’t have to become an astrologer to learn this. We’ve provided a handy guide to discovering your “momstrology” identity:

Fourth House Ruler: Cancer
Your Mothering Style: Like a crab tightly clutching all that it cherishes, you’re a tad possessive of your wee ones. Children bring out the mother hen in independent Aries, much to your surprise. Since Cancer is driven by emotions, kids can also evoke strong feelings (and at times reactions, which isn’t always a great mix with your hot Aries temper). Mushball alert: if you’ve always been the tough chick, prepare to meet your sentimental side.

Fourth House Ruler:Leo
Your Mothering Style: Proud and regal, you’re the queen of your clan. With showy Leo in the fourth house, you like to spoil your kids and brag about their achievements, putting every trophy and stellar report card on display. You might be the best-dressed mama at drop off or the PTA meetings -- and if you’re not, your child will certainly have serious kiddie style. Lavish birthday parties and elaborate holiday decorations are a given in your family.

Fourth House Ruler: Virgo
Your Mothering Style: With fastidious Virgo in the fourth house, freewheeling Gemini becomes surprisingly type A. Virgo is the sign of health, so you might be a natural mom, into gluten-free alternatives, home birth and eco-chic baby products. Watch a tendency to micromanage your kids, since analytical Virgo can make you a wee bit critical.

Fourth House Ruler: Libra
Your Mothering Style: Mommy and me! Libra is the sign of togetherness, and you can’t get enough time with your kids. (Can you say “joined at the hip”?) Being with your child can have a soothing effect for you both, and with patient Libra here, you love to experience every wonder through their eyes. Libra is an aesthetic sign, so you love shopping for your kid, decorating the nursery and exposing them to the arts. Your kids will be well groomed and well mannered.

Fourth House Ruler: Scorpio
Your Mothering Style: Leos already like to be in charge, and with powerful Scorpio here you’re as hands-on as they get. The difference? While Leo is known for courage and openheartedness, Scorpio energy is cautious, even suspicious. Your trademark “trust first, ask questions later” policy does not extend to childrearing. Scorpio is the sign of intimate and permanent bonding, making it hard to cut the cord. While your active involvement in every facet of your kids’ lives is admirable, it can be too much. Learn when to step back and allow them to become their own people.

Fourth House Ruler: Sagittarius
Your Mothering Style: Micromanager no more! With worldly and adventurous Sagittarius in the driver’s seat, you become a free thinker instead of a rigid rule follower. Sure, you may still fret over your kids’ dairy intake or growth chart percentiles (you are a Virgo), but you also expose your children to the wider world, introducing them to cultural diversity, enriching activities and travel. As a mom, you don’t sweat the small stuff the way you normally do. No wonder motherhood is so enjoyable for many Virgos -- you actually let yourself lighten up and have fun.

Fourth House Ruler: Capricorn
Your Mothering Style: Order to chaos? While airy Libras are known as scattered, you benefit from structured Capricorn governing your motherhood house. As a mom, you’re suddenly able to set rules, follow a routine and be an authority figure without worrying that your kids won’t like you. Even the most conflict-avoiding Libra will deal with misbehavior in a firm and commanding way. With your sign’s tendency to run late, parenting can even make you more punctual. Goal-oriented Capricorn can make you worry about status and your children’s future. You’ll be the first in line for preschool applications, or to butter up the admissions counselor at an elite private high school.

Fourth House Ruler: Aquarius
Your Mothering Style: You’re the zodiac’s most intense sign, yet motherhood brings out a laid-back, bohemian part of your nature. With quirky Aquarius shaping your parenting style, you could be the hippest mama in town, dressing youthfully and being a friend and a mom to your kids. Dichotomy alert: while Scorpio gets intensely attached to people, Aquarius is the sign of emotional detachment. This contrast can make you run hot and cold with your kids at times. One minute, you’re possessive, the next, you’re all “live and let live.”

Fourth House Ruler: Pisces
Your Mothering Style: Freedom doesn’t look quite as sweet anymore when your independent sign feels the bonding vibes of nurturing Pisces. While Sagittarians tend to be blunt, compassionate Pisces helps soften your edges, giving you a gentler touch. Under Pisces’ influence watch out for maternal guilt and a tendency to get overwhelmed by the day-to-day details of motherhood. Your normally firm sign can also be a bit of a pushover with the kids, and setting firm boundaries could be a challenge. Your already generous sign might give a little too much; beware any “martyr mom” tendencies from this house ruler.

Fourth House Ruler: Aries
Your Mothering Style: Who’s the boss? Your Capricorn sun sign makes you a natural leader, but take-charge Aries adds an assertive punch. While Capricorn can be reserved, fiery Aries is impulsive and direct, making you a lot bolder in your mama life than elsewhere. You’re also a strong and capable role model, trying things your cautious sign normally wouldn’t. If you know you’ll inspire your kids by taking a risk, you’ll do it. Both Aries and Capricorn are “masculine” signs, so you may end up being the family provider or disciplinarian, acting as stereotypical mom and dad in one.

Fourth House Ruler: Taurus
Your Mothering Style: Who, you? Grounded and structured? Maybe not in your pre-mama lifetime, but when it comes to motherhood, yes! Freewheeling Aquarian mums become master planners under the spell of capable Taurus. Once impossible to pin down, you become a reliable go-to as a mother. Your latent type A inclinations can even come out full force with your kiddos. Elsewhere, your life status might be “It’s complicated.” Here, however, keep-it-simple Taurus helps you prioritize and streamline. It can also make you great with family budgeting, scheduling, party planning, nursery decorating and keeping the day-to-day routines running smoothly.

Fourth House Ruler: Gemini
Your Mothering Style: Mommy or BFF? While Pisces is an old soul, youthful Gemini puts a spring in your step, adding a playful twist to your parenting style. Your kids pull you out of your emotional depths, making you laugh and lighten up. Since Gemini rules communication, open dialogue with your children is essential to you. You might talk for hours, share books and music, and even dress alike, as Gemini is the sign of the twins. A natural nurturer, Pisces tend to overgive and even make excuses for bad behavior. Fortunately, Gemini is not pulled by its heartstrings the way Pisces is, so you’re able to take a step back and recognize when your kid is taking you for a ride.

5 Steps for the Perfect Facial Cleanse

5 Steps for the Perfect Facial Cleanse | It may seem like one of the most simplistic parts of your beauty routine, but did you know you might be washing your face incorrectly?

Yes, there is a right and a wrong way to wash your face, and regardless of what your newest product or gadget promises about delivering that deep-down clean you desire, you may still be doing more harm than good if you don’t follow a few basic steps when cleansing your face. Enlarged pores, dull-looking skin and chronic acne problems such as breakouts and blackheads that never seem to disappear, can all be a result of either being too aggressive or not cleansing thoroughly enough.

If you struggle with acne, regardless of whether you’re a teen or in middle-age, try the following 5 steps for properly washing your face and you’ll see clearer, softer skin in no time.

1.Wash your hands with an anti-bacterial soap
Simple, right? Yet many people skip this fundamental step, which could lead to a transfer of acne-causing bacteria from your hands to the face. Try a hand wash from brands such as Dial or CleanWell, both of which make great germ-killing products.

2. Wet your face with lukewarm water
Prep the skin for cleansing using lukewarm, not hot, water. Too hot and you could end up damaging your skin and encouraging excessive oil production.

3. Use the right face wash
Sure oil-based face washes feel creamy and luxurious but to get all the gunk off your face that’s clogging your pores you need a wash that does a thorough cleanse. X-Out is a great product designed to get deep within the pores and deliver acne-fighting ingredients to keep flare-ups at bay.

4. Rub it in
Work the face wash into your skin, moving your fingers in a circular motion for at least 30 seconds, or as directed on the product label. Massage well to get the suds going, just remember to be gentle.

5. Rinse off with cool water
Cup cool water in your hands and rinse your face completely. Then pat, don’t rub, with a soft towel. As a bonus step, you can apply a light moisturizer appropriate for your skin-type.

That’s it! You’re done and on your way to a fresh, soft and smooth complexion.

10 Ways To Look Like A Million Bucks On A Budget

10 Ways to Look Like a Million Bucks on a Budget | For women, there’s always been some kind of pressure to look good. But it seems that now, with social media’s reign, we’re more than ever exposed to expensive fashion and told it’s the only way to be stylish. Happily, we know that’s not true!

You can look just as good on a budget, if you know a few basic tricks. Just because you don’t have the cash, doesn’t mean your wardrobe has to look cheap.

Buy the basics
Basic clothes may not sound very exciting, but they’re actually the timeless side of fashion. Instead of following trends that come and go, you should invest in pieces that will last forever: a white button down shirt, a wrap dress, a good pair of jeans and so on.

Be you
Again, instead of following the trends, wear what looks good on you! Clothes that have the proper cut, fit and color will look better on you than any of that expensive stuff that’s impossible to wear. Know your body and your style, and dress accordingly.

Don’t buy fast fashion
It may be tempting to go for the cheap stuff, but it’s not worth it in the long term. Poorly made clothes won’t last through the month, and no one’s gonna give you your money back. One thing you can do is buy high-street/designer collaborative collections, which will save you some money on your most coveted designer pieces (e.g. Vivienne Westwood for Asos, Peter Pilotto for Target etc.)

Be creative
It’s easier said than done, but you can surely make the most of your wardrobe! Layer a skirt over a dress and you’ve got a whole new outfit. Cut off those old jeans and you’ve got the shorts of your dreams. Always look for versatile pieces that can have more than one utility, such as button down shirts, pinafore dresses and two-faced jackets.

Go thrifting
Some people avoid thrifting due to pride. We think they’re wrong. Thrifting is perfectly acceptable, and once you get the hang of it, you won’t look back. You can find amazing, unique pieces in second-hand shops, including vintage designer pieces if you’re lucky. A more advanced form of thrifting? eBay.

Shop the sales
Nowadays, every shop has huge sales once or twice a year. Find out when that is, and only shop then. Full-priced items are for fools: what you need is a good deal on that lovely bag you were looking at. Especially online, there are almost always discounts available, whether it’s free shipping or 20% off on your next purchase.

Shop off season
No one wants to think about wool coats in the middle of the summer heat, nor about sandals in the dead of winter. And yet, there’s no better time to get a bargain than in the opposite season! Put on your spring outfit and go look for some discounted boots!

One thing that you should invest in are accessories. They’re the most affordable part of fashion, and it’s important that they’re good quality.  Always choose designer sunglasses! While a pair of knockoff sunglasses may look pretty, they’re harming your eyes instead of protecting them. The same can be said about toxic metal in some cheap jewelry, or shoes that are made of synthetic materials.

Take care of your clothes
Always read the instructions label before cleaning your clothes, drying them or ironing. You don’t want the unpleasant surprise of a shrunken angora wool sweater that you just scored at the sales.

Take care of yourself
Clean, simply styled hair and proper nails can look like a million bucks! You don’t need any fancy products for this, just make sure you are always groomed and neat. 

What Woman Really Want In A Relationship ??

4 Things Every Woman Needs In A Relationship | Maybe if we can all communicate a little better, we can finally get ourselves on the same page and, in turn, not end up in these consecutive tried-and-failed relationships.

I’d like to believe that through observing the relationships of my friends, engaging in several of my own relationships and trying to openly understand all different types of people and connections, I think I have a good grasp on what women truly want. However, I do not intend to offend any woman who may not agree. Here are four major needs that are general to all women:

We want to be wanted.
The feeling of someone yearning for us is a sense of power and strength that we may not even realize we crave. To be able to label another human being as “ours” and know that at the end of the day, no matter what happens, that person will always be on our side is an amazing feeling.

Not implying that we want to control our significant other, but it is the nurturer deep down within us that triggers this type of emotion. We like to be that person on the other end of the phone hearing about your day or the one you come to when you don’t know where else to turn.

Tell us your thoughts, dreams and aspirations, and it will not only bring us closer together, but also make the conversation flow more easily on both ends. Not to mention, you’ll be prominent on our minds.

We want a friend.
Simply having someone to text, talk to or hang out with when we are sober means a lot to us. The physical aspect of a romantic relationship is always a necessity, but a relationship doesn’t really begin until people start listening to each other. Stop thinking that just because we are texting you all the time, we are ready to jump into bed.

Maybe we’re just bored and we want to tell you about how much our favorite baseball team sucks, how some horrible driver cut us off on the highway or just to gush about how cute the dog we saw on the street was. We’re not all ready to throw out the idea of a relationship at the onset of mutual attraction; so quit thinking with your d*cks and let it turn into whatever it may.

I mean, come on, why can’t we be friends first and foremost, either way?

We want to feel special.
There is nothing worse than watching a woman throw herself at a man who clearly doesn’t give two sh*ts.

If a guy really loves a woman, he is going to let her know it. He’ll make her feel that love the ways he knows best: buy her flowers randomly (or an assortment of chocolates, cookies, ice cream), take her out to dinner, invite her to do fun activities, or propose any idea that gives him the opportunity to get to know her better.

A man can do something he likes and make a woman happy at the same time. Besides, in the end, both him and her have to like a variety of the same things in order to be compatible.

So men, do us all a favor: If you don’t feel the same way about a girl that she feels for you, don’t sit back and let her treat you like a king. Be honest with yourself and with her; you’re using a good woman, and you will only end up hurting her. Put yourself in her shoes. It is simply just wrong.

Some may say chivalry is dead, but karma is alive and well and she is a bad bitch. If you want a woman to treat you right, treat every woman you become involved with as you wish to be treated.

We want you to be honest.
If you don’t have feelings for a woman — one who is pouring her heart and soul into your relationship — let her know it. Stop stringing her along like a doll. She is only human; thus, she will only act as her emotions tell her.

Women don’t need men as much as you think we do. If your feelings aren’t mutual, there is likely a man out there better suited for her than you. There are plenty of other fish in the sea; if you don’t see your relationship going any further, do her a favor and let it be known.

All men need to understand that not all women are going to be the crazy ex-girlfriend you can’t seem to shake. Every relationship is different; every love is different. Don’t judge a woman or a relationship before giving it a fair chance.

Take the time to truly get to know a woman. If it doesn’t work out, at least both of you took the time to try. In the end, you will have garnered an experience with a unique person and that makes for a fulfilling life

Best Indoor Plants Suitable for Your Home

Best Indoor Plants That Won’t Die on You | Everyone knows someone who has a “green thumb,” who seems to be able to get their plants to grow beautifully just by being around, by talking to them or even playing some music. If you’d like to try your hand at cultivating a “green thumb” of your own, here’s a list of the eight best indoor plants that won’t die on you.If you kill these, you should probably quit while you’re ahead.

The Money Tree Bonsai
Also known as the Pachira plant, the money tree bonsai is a traditional symbol of good fortune and good luck. Legends say that an industrious farmer prospered after learning to braid the young trunks of this thriving green plant. And we can see why. Its unusual trunk gives this ornamental mini tree its unique appeal. Typically, each stem features five to seven leaves, but it is deemed good luck to discover a stem bearing seven. Think of it like finding a four-leaf clover. This easy to care for bonsai is the perfect choice for any novice who also is in search of a little extra luck and prosperity.

This shrub is capable of surviving in extreme low light levels. It has beautiful, leathery leaves with eye-catching colorful markings of gold, pink, and orange tones. Simply wash the leaves occasionally to maintain their shine and keep it looking pristine. The only downfall is that this plant is poisonous. So, you’ll want to ensure that your children and pets steer clear of ingesting its leaves.

If you’re looking for a plant with heart-shaped leaves that adapts well to low-light areas, maybe it’s time you pick up a philodendron. This tough plant is often grown with its stems hanging over the edge of bookshelves or in little alcoves to give any space some uplifting. You can even snip a leaf and stem off and place it in a glass of water and it will flourish.

Spider Plant
We remember seeing these plants scattered all over our grandmother’s house when we were little kids. Spider plants have been grown for years and are just as popular today. Aside from just illiciting some nostalgia, these plants also readily root in water or potting soil to start new plants.

Chinese Evergreen
Chinese Evergreens are among the easiest indoor plants to grow and care for. They can tolerate a wide range of light and conditions, and only need moderate watering, so they will generally last for years. And the best part? They are extra tough and can also act as an indoor air purifier.

Grape Ivy
If you’re interested in hanging some tidy-looking baskets around your house, the grape ivy is the perfect addition to any room. Although it’s a vine, this plant has more of a mounding habit.

Not only do succulents provide gorgeous greenery to any setting, they’re practically indestructible — even if you forget to water them for weeks at a time. This is the ideal plant for those who are far from having a “green thumb.” Since these plants are known to be extremely adaptive, they can survive in a number of terrible conditions. The only thing you need to make sure you do is expose it to some bright light every now and again. You can find dozens of varieties of desert cacti and succulents hanging around grocery stores and garden centers.

Lucky Bamboo
Feng shui, anyone? Not only are lucky bamboo plants one of the most popular ways to balance the energies in your home, it is also used to attract happiness, health, love and abundance. Fortunately for you, it doesn’t take too much luck to grow one of these beautiful marvels of nature. We’ve seen these plants grow in the most awful conditions (bad lighting and poor air quality) and with the most forgetful of owners.

If you want to ensure this plant is getting the love it deserves, keep water fresh by changing it every week, and always keep water levels at approximately an inch from the base of the canes.

Understanding Your Hormone Horoscope

Understanding Your Hormone Horoscope | For most women, hormones are some of the most major players in their lives. Maybe they affect your sleep, your relationships, your decision making, even how you feel about yourself. What if someone who makes a daily or weekly study of this could help you decipher this complex imbalance and even advise you on nutrition and life choices that could change your hormones from feeling like a constant pain and mystery to a source of strength and knowledge.

n 1999, Gabrielle Lichterman—a nationally-known health and lifestyle journalist and author of 28 Days: What Your Cycle Reveals about Your Love Life, Moods and Potential, developed what she calls Hormonology; a way of explaining to women how they can better understand their menstrual cycles, and  predict virtually every aspect of their days.

Lichterman calls it a “hormone horoscope” and though it has nothing to do with astrology, it is a daily list of tips and tricks to help women make the most of their cycles and work through the worst.

Week 1.  Personality Challenges

This is the onset of your period, a time when you may be feeling blue and tired—due to the rise in estrogen. Lichterman suggest eating iron rich foods like beans or lean meat or taking at an iron supplement. Iron can raise your energy, elevate your mood, increase sharpness, and even make you feel pumped up.

Week 2. Eight days after period—during ovulation.

This is the time to be daring. Ask for a raise or go out on a blind date. Take a class, pull an all-nighter, this is the time you’ll have the most confidence and feel the most extroverted. Your estrogen and testosterone are at their highest.

Week 3. After ovulation (around day 14 of a 28 day cycle).

This time will be the start estrogen levels begin dropping. Libido is lower, you’re starting to feel moody, and beginning to feel the symptoms of PMS (Pre Menstrual Syndrome). Lichterman suggests listening to upbeat music, drinking small bits of caffeine throughout the day, or eating some dark chocolate, all of this will help to combat PMS.

Week 4. True PMS week kicks in.

Feelings of anger, depression, and moodiness.  Lichterman says taking a mulit-vitamin, 1,000 miligrams of Calcium daily, Omega 3, and 400 IUs with Vitamin D, are all shown to cut PMS symptoms by 40 percent.

In general, diet and exercise can play a large role in fighting the many challenges presented by normal fluctuations in hormones. But being aware of what’s happening in your body, can also help us to feel at ease about our cycles and even surviving the difficulties of PMS.